Stay calm during your divorce

How to Stay Healthy During a Divorce

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Look, at the end of the day, divorces can be hard to handle. They can end up impacting the way we think, feel, and even love again.

So is it possible to really stay healthy through a divorce, even against the odds?

If you’re looking to keep it together, or just want to relieve some of the stress a divorce may bring, you’re definitely in the right place. We’ll be going over how to get through a divorce both physically and mentally. Plus, believe it or not, you might be surprised by how large of a role exercise plays in both the physical and mental areas of divorce.

So without wasting anymore time, let’s dive right in, and take a look at some of the ways you can get through a divorce.

Kids and Custody, Parenting Plans

Father and child playing together

If you have kids, you need to make good decisions early. Especially important is to maintain peaceful relations with the other parent. Some difficult negotiations may be involved.

For everyone’s peace of mind, including your own, you want to settle on custody arrangements as early as possible. Ideally, you can do that with the other parent through discussions. The process could involve mediation if you think a third party would improve your communication and help negotiate emotive issues.

A big part of the custody negotiations is coming up with a parenting plan that you can both agree on. Technology is here to help. At,  you can generate a parenting timetable and plan almost automatically. You just enter some basic details and a plan is drafted, which you can then modify by changing optional settings.

How to Handle a Divorce Mentally

More times than not a divorce will take a mental toll on you. Having your significant other rip your heart out can be hard, and on top of heartache, a lot of financial stress tends to follow.

So how can I cope with the mental stress a divorce may bring?

This can be complicated, because it depends on how you feel about the divorce. If you’re worried about your heart, then sometimes it will just take time to feel better. In this case, it’s best to find someone to talk to or confide in. If your close friends aren’t cutting it, you can always try therapy.

Exercise is a great way to deal with the mental stress, because it will ultimately take your mind off it. Plus, even after a workout, you’ll be less inclined to think about it due to serotonin. If you’re a bit confused at this point, don’t worry, because we’ll be taking a more in depth look at exercise and serotonin in the next section.

The last thing you can do to help you cope with mental stress, is to create an action plan. When a divorce hits, you need to make sure you’re ready. Set goals, and set yourself up for success in other areas of your life. Not only will this take your mind off of the divorce, but it will also make you more productive in other areas of your life.

At the end of the day, dealing with the mental aspects of divorce can be tricky. This is because a lot of it has to do with the person, and the individual situation. So be sure to try a method that works for you, and in some cases, certain medication might be helpful as well.

How to Handle a Divorce Physically

Just because the impact of stress may seem mental, the rest of your body is also bound to suffer. The brain is the powerhouse of the body, so when something has your brain in a bind, it can lead to physical problems as well.

How can I handle the physical implications of a divorce?

One of the main things you can do to handle the physical issues of a divorce, is to make sure you keep on top of your exercise. Your serotonin levels may become compromised during a divorce, and exercise is a great way to have you naturally replenish diminished serotonin.

Plus, believe it or not, exercise will have you feeling good in all areas. This is even more important if you’re a bit out of shape, because exercise can give you a goal and ambition to follow. Not only will this distract you from the divorce, but it will mould your body into a whole new shape.

Also, if your divorce has you feeling depressed or sluggish, exercise will actually help you get moving again. Depression and stress has a lot to do with cortisol levels in your brain, and exercise like yoga or calisthenics are a great way to reduce cortisol levels. When it comes to a divorce, exercise should be your go to physical cure.

Sometimes handling stress comes down to the simple things, and overcoming the physical shortcomings of divorce need to be handled with a little exercise.


Getting through a divorce is not easy, and in many cases, it will take a toll on you. It can lead to mental problems, physical stress, and all around misery.

Luckily, if you do find yourself in this situation, there are a couple of ways to manage the ailments that come with it.

As we mentioned earlier, be sure to focus on yourself. Make sure you find things to keep your racing mind off the divorce, and try to keep up with your exercise.

Guys: For further reading, have a look at the article Separation Skills Every Man Needs.

A divorce is one of the hardest things you can go through, so don’t be too hard on yourself, and take things one day at a time. Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day.

  1. Jasmine Hewitt
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    Many don’t think of healthier ways to handle the stress of divorce. This is a great resource!

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